"First of all", says Sade, "the exact details. Who are you and what are you after in this world?
Only too often I behold you asleep, inert, or just barely alive, coming and going like some organic statue---is it you?
Only too often I behold you asleep, inert, or just barely alive, coming and going like some organic statue---is it you?
No, you would have yourself a conscious being, as conscious as possible, and rational.
You seek happiness, which increases consciousness tenfold. What happiness?
Ordinarily it is located in pleasure and in love. All well and good.
But one thing: avoid confusing the two.
To love and to taste pleasure are essentially different; proof thereof is that one loves every day without tasting pleasure, and that one still more frequently tastes pleasure without loving.
Now, while an indisputable pleasure goes with the gratification of the senses, love, you will admit, is accompanied by nuisances and troubles of every sort."
The Marquis De Sade
This is quite a profound post. But I think love is not necessarily self-centered in comparison to pleasure. Ah, this is a little difficult India, care to explain more please,maybe with examples :)
ReplyDeleteNo, real love is not self-centered, nor is it always or often a "pleasurable" experience. Pleasure is pleasure and it is not dependent upon love. I can't speak directly for Marquis de Sade, I can only explain what his thoughts mean to me. People often live in a world of their own illusion, reinforced by the images in our society of love and pleasure so often mixed together, that people believe they are one and the same. The idea of the blog is to give you a taste, to wet your appetite, to read more and delve farther into the subjects of libertarianism that Sade expounds on. Suffice to say, pleasure for pleasure's sake without requiring the justification of love is one point.
ReplyDeleteU r very right about how love can often not be a pleasurable experience. I need to read more on libertarianism by Sade. Like the last sentence you gave - its kinda ringin in my ears n is makin sense :)
ReplyDeleteJohn Lennon put it something like this; "Whoever said that love and sex have to go together? I've enjoyed sex without love and I've enjoyed Love without sex."
ReplyDeleteIt is ok to enjoy sex for sex. Sex for the physical pleasure it brings. You don't need to justify it with loftier or "higher" intentions or reasons. Pleasure, for pleasure's sake.
Well said, Your Milfness! I couldn't agree with you more! I am one who, when in a relationship (I am not at the moment) do care about my partners own pleasure. It is what it is; when the two experience pleasure simultaneously, caring enough to encourage one pleasure for pleasures sake, then the sky is the limit!
ReplyDeleteI have never been in a relationship till date but these blog posts are turning out to be valuable lessons for me :-) Thank you your MILFness India (bowing head reverently)
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